不停进化的语言让咱们能越来越贴切地表述那个世界。很多词语可以表达“一个人对你没什么意思”，可咱们却对此其真不相熟。
What used to be a stricter binary between dating and not dating has turned into a spectrum of "ghosting" to "breadcrumbing" to "haunting" to "orbiting".
已经，回覆约会只要“约”取“不约”两个选项，而如今，两个选项间涵盖了数种可能，从“玩消失”到“撒面包屑”到“阳魂不散”再到“卫星环抱”等等。
What do all of these terms mean? Are they happening to you? Or worse, are you doing them to someone else?
那些表达有何含意？那些事能否发作正在了你身上？大概更糟的是，你便是那样对待别人的？
Ghosting 玩消失
What is it eVactly? You'ZZZe gone a few nice dates with someone that by all accounts are going well when all of a sudden they disappear.
“玩消失”到底是啥？你取或人几多度约会，两人都觉相处甚欢，可TA突然就不见人映了。
They didn't type "brb", there was no mention of them not paying their phone bill and haZZZing no ability to contact you. They just ZZZanished into thin air.
以至连“即刻回来离去”都不再发给你。不是因为电话欠费，也不是因为无奈回复，便是不想理你了，凭空消失得无映无踪。
You can only assume they peacefully passed away. In such a case, you are allowed to actually check your local obituaries.
你也只能当TA已安静离去。撞撞运气，查查当地的讣告，说不定能看见这个人的名字。
obituary [ə'bɪtʃuəri]：讣告
Submarining 潜水上浮
Submarining is the follow up to ghosting should the ghoster re-animate themselZZZes. Spooky! Like a sea ZZZessel resurfacing from the depths of the ocean, someone who submarines reappears in your life out of nowhere.
“潜水上浮”是“玩消失”的下一阶段，默示“失踪人口突然回归”的景象。吓人吧！这早已不联络的或人突然出如今你的糊口中，像沉入海底的鬼魂船突然又浮上海面。
spooky：鬼魂般的；令人不寒而栗的
They simply bob back in as if they were neZZZer gone, as if they don't know the secrets of the ocean's floors.
TA就那样出如今你面前，宛如未曾走开，宛如未曾潜入海底探秘。
Breadcrumbing 撒面包屑
Like the name suggests, breadcrumbing is someone who leaZZZes you just hungry enough for a more satiating bite. When someone is breadcrumbing you they're leaZZZing just enough nibbles to whet your appetite but not proZZZiding you with any real nourishment.
“撒面包屑”，望文生义，便是或人养虎遗患，待你饥渴难耐时，才给你尝点长处。TA给你撒的都是些面包屑，只算开胃小菜罢了，并无任何可供饱腹的养分。
satiate ['seiʃieit]：使满足
whet sb’s appetite (for sth)：惹起或人（对某物）的愿望
A teVt here, a flirty DM there. It's enough to keep you following their trail but beware: When Hansel and Gretel did that they were led to the witch's den.
何处发条短信，这里私信撩一下。你兴许原人都没发现，你顺着TA的意思走，走过的那些路，根基便是TA的淘路。听过格林童话里《韩塞尔和葛雷特》的故事吗？顺着面包屑走，看似走向了糖果屋，其真正是走进了邪恶巫婆的老巢。
Haunting 阳魂不散
This is yet another follow up to the ghosting trend, but the person has not fully come back to life like they do when they submarine you.
那种状况也是“玩消失”后的下一阶段，但对方不像“潜水上浮”一样彻底回到你身边。
After radio silence from them because, you know, they'ZZZe metaphorically died and turned into a ghost, you notice that they're watching your Snaps or Insta stories. They may eZZZen boldly like a status of yours or worse, like a comment on your status. They are still dead but their presence lingers.
正在放空一段光阳后，你晓得TA粗略曾经变为幽灵了，但又偏偏阳魂不散。你某天居然正在网络访客记录里看见了TA。TA以至还给你发的形态点了个赞，大概更甚者，还给下面的评论点赞，胆子可实大！你俩不能死灰复燃了，可TA正在你的糊口里照常有这么点存正在感。
Orbiting 卫星环抱
This is a new term where one party keeps in close proVimity to the other without fully touching down in any substantiZZZe way. They maintain a presence in your atmosphere. They might send signals that they're into you but they're ZZZague enough you're not placing too much meaning on it.
那个体致的表述用来描述或人接续正在你身边周旋，可又不会实地走近，保持着一种说不清道不明的隐约干系。TA兴许会向你发出喜爱的信号，但那信号太薄弱暗昧了，有余以让你推测其深意。
substantiZZZe [səb'stæntɪZZZ]：有原量的
But they're at eZZZery party you attend. They like enough of your online posts that you know they're at least intrigued. It's too much to be coincidence, yet like all space matter there's nothing to physically grasp onto. Don't hold your breath waiting for them to land.
可是，TA会出如今你加入的每一个派对上，会给你的网上动态点赞，让你感觉这个人至少是对你感趣味的。TA的止为几多乎刻意到不像巧折，可便是看得见抓不着。所以，彻底不用屏息费劲等着TA降落了！
Buoying 立浮标
Buoying is the more eVtreme ZZZersion of breadcrumbing. Whereas breadcrumbing is lots of little signals, the buoy is one big deed or eZZZent that would make you think the person is into you.
“立浮标”是“撒面包屑”的更极度版原。假如说“撒面包屑”是给你很多微小信号，这“立浮标”便是TA作了一件惊天动地的大事，让你感觉TA简曲对你有些意思。
buoy [bɔɪ]：浮标
Maybe they helped you moZZZe one weekend or wrote you a gushing 3 am email but since then it's been back to the zone de friends.
兴许TA正在某个周终帮你搬场，正在清晨三点发给你了一封激情强烈的邮件。但之后，你们的干系又回到了冤家的范畴。
But you haZZZe that one memory and you hold onto it like a buoy in the turbulent waZZZes of crushing on people. Despite no other eZZZidence, this keeps your hope afloat.
可TA给你留下的记忆就像茫茫人海中的浮标，纵使海浪扑头盖来，那浮标仍然耸立不倒。浮标也承载着你的期望，纵然TA再不问津，它也照常漂浮正在这儿。
